By Chick Moorman
do babies begin to understand language? Maybe it's three months.
Perhaps one month. Maybe they understand language on some level
after one week. Understanding might even occur before birth. No
one knows for sure.
thing is certain, though: The communication pattern you establish
with your baby before birth and immediately after sets the stage
for the lifetime of communication that follows. So talk to your
baby before birth and immediately after. Lovingly, soothingly share
your feelings and desires with your baby.
birth, tell your baby:
are waiting for you. We want you and look forward to your arrival."
have a room all ready for you. We want you to feel as safe on the
outside as you do on the inside."
have selected loving parents. We love you so much. You have already
brought incredible joy into our lives."
are a little nervous about your birthing. We intend to make it as
easy on you as we can."
wonder what you'll think of all this light, action, and attention.
We wonder if you'll want to run right back to where you came from."
world will be a lot different from where you came from. We will
do our best to help you adjust and find your way."
are reading books and articles on the Internet so we can be good
parents to you. We have so much to learn. We will learn from you
and with you."
are going to do our best to allow you to grow into the very best
YOU that you can be. We have no preconceived notions of how you
are welcome in our lives. You will change our lives in ways we are
not even aware of. Although that's a bit scary to us, we love you
birth, tell your baby:
are so glad you are here. We love you very much."
we can make your first few days easy, we will do it. We will hold
you and feed you and sing to you and hope that eases your transition."
we're not sure what you want and we feel helpless. But we'll keep
right on loving you as we learn about you and your needs."
is a little child in each of us who needs to feel loved too. We
will remember to love and nurture both you and our inner children."
are such a beautiful, sweet baby. We feel so honored to be your
are so happy and also scared. Help us learn to be less scared and
a blessing you are to our family! We are so glad you are finally
here. You were certainly worth the wait."
one knows for certain if your child understands the words you speak.
No matter. Talk as if your baby does understand. Add appropriate
gestures and facial expressions. Touch. Snuggle. Sing the words.
Be loving as you speak to your baby. Keep your feelings congruent
with your words. In time your baby's reactions will convince you
that your words are getting through.
Moorman is the author of "Parent Talk: How to Talk to Your
Child in Language That Builds Self-Esteem and Encourages Responsibility"
and "Spirit Whisperers: Teachers Who Nourish a Child's Spirit."
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